Here is how you get started with your bondage adventure
It is really common for you to feel that things in your sex life are getting a bit comfortable, a bit predictable, and not that exciting or sizzling anymore. Whatever you do, don’t be lazy. Don’t accept that the spice has gone from your sex. Take control and make your sex life exactly what you want it to be. One of the easiest ways to keep your sex life interesting and exciting is to try new things, different things and bedroom experimentations that might be a little out of your comfort zone. That could be as simple as buying a new sex toy, trying to role-play with your partner, or exploring some of the darker reaches of your desires. Many people find that adding a little bit of bondage to their sex play can really turn up the heat. If this is something that you have been considering, we will give you the tools to consider before you get started.
What’s your safety word?
Whatever level of bondage you are considering, the important thing is to negotiate some boundaries with your partner before you get started. This doesn’t have to be as clinical as it sounds. For example, you don’t need to write out a formal agreement or anything but you do need to have some sort of understanding that they are up for being restrained and disciplined. You hear a lot of talk about “safety words”, this is an easy way of having a mutually agreed red flag that lets you both know if you’re about to take things too far. This action type was most recently shown in the blockbuster hit, 50 Shades of Grey the movie.
It’s time to go shopping
Of course there are a huge range of household items that can be used to tie your partner up and tease them, discipline them, and pleasure them. You are bound to have a piece of rope or an old pair of stockings that could be used to effectively secure your partner to a chair or to the bed. However the problem with using household items in your sex play is that they may not be that easy to clean or they may inadvertently hurt your partner by cutting into their skin. If you’re just starting out, check out the bondage starter kits that most erotic supply web sites or stores will offer. As a guide, you’re going to need some ankle restraints, some handcuffs, and a blindfold. Other items that you will find useful to have in hand include nipple clamps, a ball-gag, and a whip of some kind.
The important thing about bondage encounters is to just relax and have fun with it. Don’t expect to feel like some all-powerful dungeon master. This might be something that you grow into as your confidence builds so just get a feel for the toys you have to play with. Get used to how they work and discover what your partner really enjoys, what turns them on, what gets them off. Bondage has to be an exciting and pleasurable experience for both parties. This is definitely true since the person that is tied up and being disciplined has to be enjoying him or herself while giving you total control while ultimately submitting to your whims and desires.
You will find that effective communication is essential to getting the most out of your bondage experiences. After the fun is over, make sure you talk about how it went. Couples should not be embarrassed about bondage acts. Sharing your thoughts and feelings will ensure a better experience for you both next time around. Stick to this plan and you and your partner will journey successfully to sensual bliss in no time. Don’t hesitate to ask us any questions about Sex Toys, Bondage scenarios or any other question you may have.